Good guy vs bad guy dating
if that’s not what you want with me or in general, 100% in your mind, heart, body and soul… I don’t think it makes you a bad person, I wouldn’t hate you, I wouldn’t be mad at you.Life is complicated and the heart wants what the heart wants. “When I saw this, it just doesn’t line up with someone who wants to be 100% exclusive. “Life is to short to spend our time, energy and youth on something that isn’t spectacular. I’m fine with either and if you don’t want that, we can part ways as friends – sincerely, no hard feelings.As such, some of the comments (which I have preserved) bring up points that I have since addressed in this revision.Right off the top, you mentioned that you and he have agreed to be exclusive.As a young Asian woman, I am no stranger to feeling fetishized by white males.During the year and a half I was on Tinder, white males of or around my age sent me messages such as “you’re my first Asian”, “Asa Akira”, “you look like an Asian goddess”, and best of all, “don’t Asian girls love white guys?
There is a difference between having yellow fever and simply being attracted to the physical features of people from a certain culture.You’re just seeing what he’s doing online and that information is freely available to the world.Your motivations for checking up on this are worth looking at, though, because it gives me the feeling that either something inside you feels like you don’t quite trust this guy or that you don’t trust the relationship you’re in to have trust as a quality (and so you’re always checking and testing because you don’t have that trust to begin with…I felt like I was sort of “upgrading” in a way by moving away from my heritage. Adam and I have been dating for over a year, and I’ve learned that we are very much alike.I felt proud that I was more white-washed than all my other Asian friends. Although we grew up with some very different traditions (my Chinese/Vietnamese heritage and his Canadian/Jewish heritage), we pretty much went through the same circumstances as Canadian children.
” I was born and raised in Toronto by my parents who were also raised in Toronto, so I was just as westernized as these guys were.